How Ambitious Are You?

Being happy is something you have to learn. I often surprise myself by saying “Wow, this is it. I guess I’m happy. I got a home I love. A career that I love. I’m even feeling more and more at peace with myself.” If there’s something else to happiness, let me know. I’m ambitious for that, too.  – Harrison Ford

Life is an open space for infinite possibilities. Living everyday for a lot of years gives us the sense that we have to do something.

Since we are not dying yet, it sounds logical that we should try to find purpose, that we have to find something meaningful to do in the meantime, and with this mindset we go and learn, develop, grow, build and share things and feelings… but we also forget, ignore and destroy in order to accomplish whatever purpose we follow.

While we grow up, we are taught to dream high and work (or get others to work) to get what we dream. We go everyday “I want to do this“, “I have to do this and that“, and depending on the quantity and the quality of our desires, people admire us and call us “ambitious” and “determined”

We become ambitious about what we want, because most of the times we think we will find happiness in it.

And to accomplish our desires, sometimes we create to-do lists with items that outline our goal. Items that have a beginning, a middle and an end, and when we finish one, we jump to another thing, then to another one… and one more, until it becomes… endless to stop.

It becomes important to achieve things but sometimes we forget to enjoy what we do, we forget to be happy doing those things.

We think all those things are important. Of course they are, no doubt about it.
I’m not against goals and to-do lists, but the unhappiness they produce.

I have to-do lists, project list, supermarket lists. Daily, I have an amount of work that has to be delivered on time, and surely I don’t like to feel unhappy or stressed at the end of the day. I transform ideas into plans. I’m ambitious about my profession, about travelling with my loved one, about friends and feelings too. But the most important ambition I have is to be happy.

Is Real Happiness your bigger ambition?
Or is the Idea of Happiness?

Hint: Real Happiness and the Idea of Happiness are not the same. The first one is an accion and happens all the time, when you realize about the moment you are in. The second one is a concept that requires a medium to be tangible. that medium can be a thing, a person, an idea or a feeling.

Every morning, while you shower or take that first cup of coffe in the morning say to yourself: “Today I will find happiness in everything around me” “Today, I want everybody around me to be happy”.

Repeat it at every moment you can, when you drive, when you go to the bathroom, when you go to bed… repeat it with calm and honesty, and please, come back to tell how it goes…

Happiness Is Like Air

Happiness, like air, is not something you can put in a bottle. – Anonymous

Happiness is something you cannot own because if you own it then you will be afraid someone else will steal it from you. If you own happiness you will be afraid of losing it, leading to sadness or anxiety for getting it back.

Happiness cannot be sold because then you will have to buy it or you will have to get the means to buy it, leading to stress and fear because after buying “one happiness” you will have to buy some more after it ends. It cannot be packaged or bottled, because as everything in nature it has to flow to be alive otherwise it rots.

Happiness cannot be taught because if it is difficult for you to understand or your teacher is not successful at teaching it, both of you will be frustrated, which is completely the opposite of what you were trying to teach and learn.

Happiness cannot be defined because my definition won’t match yours and since points of view are always changing, there would be more wars trying to establish what happiness should be for everyone.

Then, Happiness is within everyone. It has to come free and naturally to be enjoyed at any time.

 Happiness can only be acknowledged after experience. And let me tell you a little secret: We’ve all experienced it before. So, Why does it seem impossible to experience it again? Why does it vanishes when you look for it?

Happiness, like air, cannot be seen, just sensed. On a very hot day, suddenly you feel the gently wind blowing and refreshing you, making you feel comfortable and for a moment you completely forget about the heat.

Just like happiness, once you acknowledge the present moment you are living, you feel relaxed, you forget about memories form the past and desires from the future, you get enchanted by that tiny moment of peace, of happiness.

So what happens after that moment is gone? You think you want to feel it again, so you remember about it, you get stucked on that moment from the past forgetting that the very nature of the happy moment was about the present moment.

But, how do you get that moment to keep on happening more frequently? or even better, how do you feel happiness all the time?

Remember,  Happiness, like air, is for breathing. Breathing is an action we do without thinking about it. Like Happiness, it just happens!

Sounds difficult? When you think of it as something you have to accomplish, it is impossible to achieve, instead if you acknowledge and give thanks for the moment you are in, happiness surrounds you in a very natural way.

So first, remember to acknowledge you are alive and be thankful you are breathing. Happiness will come around sooner than you think.